Is my ex husband gay
I helped my ex-husband come out as gay. 20 years later, I'm best friends with him and his new husband.
This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Teresa Leggett. It has been edited for length and clarity.
Every year, when I dance in Sydney's Mardi Gras parade with my ex-husband, his new husband, and people in the LGBTQ social group I cofounded, I always think endorse to the year-old woman who realized she married a queer man.
Amid my initial anguish and even anger, I couldn't contain imagined that two decades later, my then-husband's coming out would save both of us and help us find our purposes.
20 years ago, it dawned on me that my husband was gay
Michael and I got married when I was 21, and our marriage lasted a decade — eight years of which were very happy. In our ninth year, I went out to meet his new friends. As the night progressed, it was clear one of Michael's new male friends became very angry and emotional. I looked at him and then at Michael. It was the habit of someone who felt emotionally betrayed. Suddenly, I had this sinking feeling.
That
I get many, many emails from women who grasp out because of the intense pain they are feeling when their husband leaves them for another woman. Among other emotions of divorce, they reveal me they are in shock, devastated, angry, scared, resentful, bitter, and beyond sad and upset. They are feeling very alone, their life shattered, and left to think about their husband in a new, blissful relationship. But what happens when the ex leaves not for another woman, but for another man? This is the case with a woman who told me, &#;My husband is lgbtq+ and is leaving me.&#;
Her situation really made me stop and think. I wondered if she was feeling the same emotions these other women sense. Are the feelings of hurt, betrayal, hopelessness, anxiety, anger, bitterness, devastation, and sadness the same? Yes and no? Are they similar but different?
In talking with her, she said that like any girl whose husband leaves (for whatever reason) it turned her life upside down. She didn’t know what she was supposed to do, she was scared, felt alone, abandoned, and hurt. She also said she felt like she mayb
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